I hate you because you are successful

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It is a confession less than a post. Many of us are living a moderate life. A life with no great achievements and when we see someone who is more successful than us, we start hating him. The same happened to me.

I am a simple guy from India who has dreams, dreams of being famous, dreams of being a writer and dreams of being an inspiration. But sometimes in life, there comes a point when you get fed up of life, everything seems so wrong. You feel like there is no god and there are no miracles. The same I was feeling at that time. I am a hobbyist game developer who creates game for fun.

When I heard about True Valhalla’s success. I really got happy. I thought if he can do then anyone can do it. So I start finding ways to earn money online. But everything I did went wrong and I didn’t earn a penny. I used to read his income reports but instead of getting motivated i started feeling jealous and this jealously leaded to hatred. Hatred for just a simple reason, “He was successful, I wasn’t”. I even sent Ozdy (A guy who was not satisfied from his book) a message to send his book to me. Thank god he didn’t respond.

Days passed. I started living my life moderately without passion. One day I wrote a poem (Another hobby of mine) and posted it on the Facebook and a friend of me, messaged me, ” I am feeling jealous, you write good”. I laughed and replied, “Try again…you will become better than me”  In the night when I was laying and his words came to my mind. They hit my heart. I realized how I was hating a person I barely know, and just for a simple reason. Instead of appreciating him I was wasting my time in hatred.

I felt peace in my heart at that moment. Felt like I was free, like a bird. I opened his website and read his latest income report and close the website with a motivation. I started writing my book, “Game maker for beginners“. Many times I felt low again, felt like I should leave this book but this time instead of giving up I listened to motivational speeches, watched motivational videos, read other people’s success stories.
I realized hating someone is a very bad idea. Because it hurts you more than anyone else. It will make you feel weak and inferior. Hate is too great a burden to bear. So instead of hating someone, learn from them. You don’t have to love everyone but you should be kind to everybody.

After many months of hard work, i published my book. I had lots of hope from it. Some users got issue with my book because of many errors like grammar mistakes, format, use of copyright material etc. Few thought I stole Game maker default tutorials. It was not their mistake. They were mine. I started reformatting it. But now I was shattered. I was thinking I was wasting my time. Nobody will read it. I stopped the progress. But after few months, i got my first customer. On that day, I realized that success doesn’t comes in a day.You have to work hard for it. My first customer didn’t like the book mainly because of the grammar mistakes. I refunded her money. This time I don’t want to leave it incomplete. I reformatted my book, replaced all the sprites and launched it again. In two weeks I got three sales and who are happy from my book. I know it’s too little to be called a success. But its a success for me.

From all this, I learnt many lessons.
-Never hate someone, always learn from them.
-Learn from your mistakes.
-There will always be people out there, who will be willing to help you.
– Help someone too in any way you can.
-We all have something special in us, but not necessary it is the same thing that we need for your dream.
– Try, fail and repeat untill you succeed.

I want to thank everyone who helped me. Thanks to Lonewolf, Round for their valuable help and advice.



At last, I want to say, “All good things are difficult to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get”.

Sujit Yadav

Sujit Kumar Yadav is a tech savvy who loves to explore about new technology. He is also passionate about animation and game development. He loves to write poems and to draw. He is a learner of life who loves travelling, meeting new people and dancing.

Comments ( 7 )
  1. Venky
    April 10, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    Hi, Sujit. Nice Article. Thanks. Keep up the good work

    • Sujit Yadav
      April 10, 2014 at 5:00 pm

      Thanks Mate!! Hope you keep reading the blog:)

  2. Monster Brain
    October 19, 2014 at 5:38 pm

    Nicely written… I can pretty much relate to it. When you are low and you see other people’s success and sometimes you justify that their games are not much good but get a lot of money or downloads (justice trap), it can happen. I also had felt jealousy for successful developers, hatred rising up within myself. But after a while i realized there is no point in hating them, its just deteriorating myself. Just wasting my own time and motivation. Now i love them, learn from them, become motivated by them. Read their blog and find they find others too like we find others 🙂 … Let them make money/fame, let us concentrate on making ours 😉

    • Sujit Yadav
      October 21, 2014 at 9:56 am

      Very well said. Hatred do harm only. We should focus on improving ourselves. Take inspiration from them.

  3. Abdur Rehman
    March 25, 2016 at 5:34 pm

    When I was reading this post I was thinking it’s written for me your 100 percent right. Please expecting more from this site. Thanks for your help for great contents

    • Sujit Yadav
      March 26, 2016 at 9:11 am

      Ohh Thanks a lot Abdur…I am too busy so stopped updating the blog…

      • Abdur Rehman
        March 26, 2016 at 2:51 pm

        Hope you will soon post some new stuff i already bookmarked this blog. Thanks

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